I used to think sex was the only way to intimacy. When I was having sex, the most enjoyable part was the physical contact I had with the other person. My skin on his, our bodies pressed together, and the vulnerability of it all. Now that I’ve been celibate for some time and have learned to enjoy intimacy outside of sex, I’ve realized that … Read More The Difference Between Sex & True Intimacy
I went on a date with a gentleman the other day. Prior to meeting up, I had been thinking about how I would let him know I’m celibate before things went too far. Well…the opportunity came faster than I thought it would. The conversation went something like this… He asked a series of questions about how conservative I was and since I was unsure … Read More The Talk
One year ago today I published my first blog post on this site! I can’t believe it’s been a year! Thanks so much to everyone who has read, liked, and shared my posts/site. Talking about this was really hard for me. I’m a pretty private person. Prior to this blog, I could probably count on one hand the number of people who knew about … Read More It’s My Blogaversary!
Tonight while talking to my 3-year-old niece she asked, “who you gonna eat with?” I was a little taken aback so I asked her to repeat what she said. Just as lively as ever she again said “WHO YOU GONNA EAT WITH!?!?” You see, I was at home and attempting to get off of the phone to have dinner. She didn’t understand that I could … Read More Who You Gonna Eat With?
It’s the end of Valentine’s Day and it was better than I imagined! At church on Sunday, the Pastor said a sex therapist would be talking about singles and sex on Tuesday (today). I was a little skeptical and planned on eating ice cream and reading into Valentine’s night but I decided to go. I’m so glad I did. Here are some of takeaways… … Read More Valentine’s Day Victory
Last week I had a range of emotions. I was starting to feel like I couldn’t catch a break. Then, I learned that I did well on my yearly evaluation at work! I was so excited and thankful. That morning I knew something important was going to happen and that God was preparing me. All of the songs I listened to that morning were … Read More Alone But Not Lonely (Most Of The Time)
Tonight I was reminded of part of the reason I decided to wait. While watching Love by the 10th Date, Kelly Rowland’s character said something I could relate to. Whenever I’m in a relationship that ends, it’s difficult for me to get back into the dating scene. I’ve never been the type of person to date someone and then immediately move on. There is … Read More The Road Less Traveled
In 2012 my life changed drastically. The guy I believed I was going to marry broke up with me and life as I knew it was over. Ok, it wasn’t really over but that’s how I felt. During that relationship I took my first crack at waiting. I decided in 2009 that I wouldn’t have sex until I was married. Well….lawd have mercy I … Read More They That Wait!