Category: Singleness


It’s Time to Make a Shift

For the last few months I’ve been anticipating a shift. I’ve been writing this blog for ~6 years and it’s time to level up! Originally this blog was about celibacy and waiting and while I’m still on my (LONG) celibacy journey this blog has become much more. So much so that I’m changing the name of my blog. While will still point to … Read More It’s Time to Make a Shift


Holiday Single

Yesterday I had conversations with two different people about what it’s like to be single during the holidays. Both discussions were centered around companionship or a lack-thereof. After spending many holidays single and even alone, I’ve managed to come up with some ways that have helped me get through and even enjoy the holidays. Here’s what I’ve done that has worked for me… On … Read More Holiday Single


Nothing Is Wasted

For a long time I was bothered when close friends got married. It was a reminder that they’d progressed from the dating to married phase in life and that I was still single. I didn’t want to feel envious or even jealous as friends celebrated the happiest moments of their lives but I did. I’d have to pep-talk my way into accepting invitations, attending, … Read More Nothing Is Wasted


Dating While Celibate

Dating while celibate is hard. When you meet someone special, there’s a point in time where you may want to take things to the next level. You might feel like after doing so (by doing so I mean having sex) you’ll know if that is or could be your person. The problem with this scenario is it doesn’t work……if you’re celibate. You’re going to … Read More Dating While Celibate


Somebody’s Sleeping In My Bed

I’m the only one who sleeps in my bed. While I’ve been in this house, (it’ll be 6 years in August) no one but me has slept in my bed. Now, I’ve slept in a bed with a man at some point since I’ve lived here but I’ve made a conscious effort/decision not to allow any man to sleep in my bed. Let me … Read More Somebody’s Sleeping In My Bed


Hard Healing

There’s some healing that needs to take place and it’s going to be hard. I was reflecting on some personal work I’ve had to do and as I summed things up, I couldn’t talk about how hard it was without acknowledging the level of healing I’ve received. We all have some level of personal healing work to do. You can try to move on … Read More Hard Healing


For Men, Mostly

Lately I’ve been getting a lot of good feedback from men who read my blog. When I first started writing this blog my target audience was women but as it has evolved, I’ve included posts geared towards any and everyone interested in celibacy. If you are a man and you’re interested in being celibate or dating someone who is, you’re not alone. Believe it … Read More For Men, Mostly


“They Decided They’d Wait For Me.”

Constance Wu said the statement above while being interviewed at the Academy Awards. Wu was already acting in a TV series when she was offered the lead role in Crazy Rich Asians. There were some scheduling conflicts and it seemed like she was going to have to pass on the opportunity but – they waited for her. When someone knows you’re perfect for a … Read More “They Decided They’d Wait For Me.”


The Talk

I went on a date with a gentleman the other day. Prior to meeting up, I had been thinking about how I would let him know I’m celibate before things went too far. Well…the opportunity came faster than I thought it would. The conversation went something like this… He asked a series of questions about how conservative I was and since I was unsure … Read More The Talk

I Already Have A Crown

I was having a conversation with someone recently and they said I was a queen and needed a crown. In true Tiffani fashion I said (because I do), “I already have a crown.” You have to know who you are. I learned this more than anything last year when my identity was challenged in all areas of my life – my views, my ways, … Read More I Already Have A Crown

Check On Your Strong (Single) Friend

Not long ago there was a Huffington Post article with the title Don’t Forget To Check On Your Strong Friend. After a series of events, this blog post was inspired by that article. A few weeks ago I was having a really bad week. There were some things that were out of my control and everything was coming at me at the same time. … Read More Check On Your Strong (Single) Friend

A Double Portion

Not long ago, I went to a soup kitchen to volunteer. I volunteered with this organization a few times in the past and was eager to spend more time volunteering in 2018. The last few times I volunteered, we served food during three shifts and it was critically important to ensure each guest received the same portion. During the first two shifts the portions … Read More A Double Portion

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