For as long as I can remember people have been telling me to write a list of the characteristics I want in a mate. They say…write it down, pray over it, and while you may not get everything you want, God can do it! Well let me tell you….I have prayed over lists for YEARS. I have written and rewritten lists. I’ve made short lists … Read More The List
Today while rollerblading I said to God, “I don’t want to fall.” I started to take it back but I meant it, so I didn’t. Five minutes later I fell. It wasn’t a cute fall either. There were people around…both my knees, and hands hit the ground and I rolled away with some scrapes and bruises. As soon as I fell I remembered what … Read More Fall
About 3 years ago I was at the doctor’s office and my doctor said, “do you want to talk about fertility?” and I said no. Here we are 3 years later and we still haven’t talked about it. For some reason there is a foot on the gas approach to having children and getting married. Even our providers are having these conversations earlier. I … Read More You Can’t Hurry Love
There are some times when navigating life as a single person can be tough. Comments from friends and loved ones can be discouraging. Somehow you’re made to feel like it’s all your fault. Some of the most attractive, successful, and all around good people are single. It is not a curse and you are not alone. During those moments when things don’t seem to … Read More Fill Me Up Again
I’m a little reluctant to share this so you’re probably reading this post weeks or months after it first came to mind. Sometimes while dating there is a tendency to cut corners. Maybe you don’t wear your best dress or you show up late. Maybe you decide when the date will end before it even begins. But then, someone comes along that shows you … Read More Going The Extra Mile
Over the last year or so, I have been getting this annoying alert when I turn my laptop on. It says something like “Your startup disk is full.” Last year, my laptop completely blanked out on me. I was about to start a new semester and I thought I was going to have to buy a new laptop. No one is prepared (at least … Read More Clear Your Downloads
Last week I was talking to a family member about my lineage. I discovered that both my mother and father had tough upbringings. While I can’t go into detail I will say, broken people make broken people. As I keep the faith and pray that God sends the one, I also have to reconcile the fact that there’s work I have to do in … Read More Broken People Make Broken People
Tonight while talking to my 3-year-old niece she asked, “who you gonna eat with?” I was a little taken aback so I asked her to repeat what she said. Just as lively as ever she again said “WHO YOU GONNA EAT WITH!?!?” You see, I was at home and attempting to get off of the phone to have dinner. She didn’t understand that I could … Read More Who You Gonna Eat With?
It’s the end of Valentine’s Day and it was better than I imagined! At church on Sunday, the Pastor said a sex therapist would be talking about singles and sex on Tuesday (today). I was a little skeptical and planned on eating ice cream and reading into Valentine’s night but I decided to go. I’m so glad I did. Here are some of takeaways… … Read More Valentine’s Day Victory
While at church on Sunday the guest pastor (Keith Battle) told us to turn to 2 Kings 4. In this chapter, there is a story about a Shunammite woman who prepared a room for Elisha in her home. He wanted to repay her, so he asked her what she wanted and she said she didn’t need anything and that she was fine. Upon further … Read More The Shunammite Woman
In 2012 my life changed drastically. The guy I believed I was going to marry broke up with me and life as I knew it was over. Ok, it wasn’t really over but that’s how I felt. During that relationship I took my first crack at waiting. I decided in 2009 that I wouldn’t have sex until I was married. Well….lawd have mercy I … Read More They That Wait!